Victoria Moss On: How To Avoid Being A Bridezilla

Victoria Moss On: How To Avoid Being A Bridezilla

InStyle's columnist tells us how she avoided becoming the dreaded bridezilla in just four easy steps... (Totally a true story)

Just because you’re getting married, it doesn’t mean you have to become a moron. This was my biggest fear. Over the years I’d sat back and watched as seemingly rational women got engaged and went bat*hit mental. I might like a glittery Miu Miu heel as much as 
the next woman, but I didn’t watch Kate Middleton cruise through Westminster Abbey and think, ‘Sure love, but why so understated?’ What I did find, however, 
is that other people are obsessed with weddings. They will ask you about it constantly, they’ll launch into monologues about flowers, they will have a friend who did something with a marquee... Be strong. If you give in to them, you will be the woman Googling veils at 3am. Don’t be her.

1. You don’t have to buy 
a wedding dress

I’ve been into a bridal shop twice in my life. Once with a friend, once for a feature (#journalism). The thought of straddling 
a sweaty sample size dress in order to approximate what one may look like 
on said day didn’t appeal to me and, 
to be honest, I’ve never looked at a single wedding dress on anyone ever and thought it was nice. I have, however, spent many 
an afternoon wandering lustfully around department store floors gushing over gowns. Ready-to-wear is an easier option (no appointments/fittings) and much better value, especially if you are shopping in the summer fashion season – there are so many divine pale/white dresses available. I bought mine from Matchesfashion.com (and had it shortened perfectly at Designandalter.com) having tried on 
lots in their private shopping suite in Marylebone. A friend successfully ordered a bunch of pieces from Monsoon and tried them on at home. Net-a-Porter.com has 
a dedicated ‘bridal’ section, and Asos.com has just launched their own bridalwear, as has Self-Portrait. There are many, many options that don’t include a matronly 
sales assistant bulldog-clipping you into 
a ghastly strapless confection.

2. Minimise your decisions

Throwing a wedding is basically a long list of decisions. I can make about five before I’m bored, so I learnt that the key to retaining sanity was to cap them. I hired 
a brilliant florist (Yolanda at Chiaramello.co.uk), I set her a (modest) budget, I made some vague noises about a giant bouquet and a colour scheme. I showed her my dress. I let her get on with it. What flowers do I like? Whichever in-season ones she with her expert eye likes. We had the reception in a pub (food, drink, staff, tables all included) – one decision. I delegated transport and entertainment to Charles (groom). Charles made a spreadsheet. I also got some help from a wedding planner (not as fancy as it sounds – Unionweddings.co.uk will do as little or as much as you pay them to) to set up on the day. This meant 
I didn’t have to put up any fairy lights or faff about with table settings. Ideal.

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💘💘💘 💐 by the wonderful @yolandachiaramello

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3. Assemble a girl squad

This only occurred to me on the day, 
but I had a stealth team of women who helped turn me out into something presentable. Weddings are all about word of mouth help. My wedding planners were handy friends. My florist was a friend of a friend; I found my photographers via a recommendation (Sweetpeaandivy.photos – a duo, which mean they work quickly 
on the day, plus they are very nice and patient); and through them I got the number of my hairdresser; my make-up was done by the gorgeous Hannah Martin at Bobbi Brown. Even with my cold heart, I feel quite teary 
and indebted to them. A wedding is more than two people; it’s everyone using their skills to help you out. This was the most humbling part of the whole thing for me.

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Husband ✔️👰🏻🎩 @mistercharlieharris

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4. If you tell people you’re 
on honeymoon, you will 
get champagne

Shout out to the Rosewood London hotel for providing me with a fresh glass every time I moved location, plus for introducing us to what we came to recognise as the honeymooners’ welcome: heart-shaped chocolate cake and red berries. I miss it.

Victoria Moss is Senior Fashion News 
and Features Editor at The Telegraph

Follow Victoria on Twitter at @missvmoss

 

 
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