Sorry Not Sorry: Why We're Confused By The App Teaching Women To Speak Like Men

Sorry Not Sorry: Why We're Confused By The App Teaching Women To Speak Like Men

A new web app aims to get women in the workplace speaking like men, but we’re not entirely sure why. Meet the app dividing opinion…

How many times do you say sorry a day? We’re quick to use the ‘s’ word at every possible opportunity, especially in the workplace, but think about it; you need to ask your boss a question, what do you write?

That’s three times already, and you haven’t even done anything wrong (unless you have, then we can’t help you …).

But now, a new Gmail plug-in is on a slightly dodgy mission to cut ‘sorry’ out of your e-mail vocab, by asking women to speak more like men. Yes, really.

First of all, the app. It’s called Just Not Sorry, and after you install it, it will underline any language that it thinks is demeaning, undermining or diluting your authority with a red squiggly line, just like spell check.

Hover over the offending word for explanations from artists and writers on why these words are a no-go.

But we’ve got a question for the plug-in’s creator, Tami Reiss - why is this app targeting women? Linguistic research shows that women do tend to use phrases like ‘sorry’, ‘I’m no expert’ and ‘does this make sense’ to make us more ‘likable’ than men (if we’re generalising all 3.5 billion plus of us females in the world), but should we really change every single e-mail we send to make ourselves heard?

Sorry not sorry, but we’re not keen on that.

We get Tami’s idea, and agree that our e-mail vocab could be less timid, but an e-mail plug isn’t the best solution to womens’ inequality in the workplace.

How about instead of asking women to speak like men, we treat women with the respect that they deserve in the first place?  Now that’s something we can get on board with.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments box below.

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