When Em talks body, you should probably listen
Emily Ratajkowski – actress, model and feminist activist? You might not have seen that last one coming, but Emily has just released a pretty inspirational article on body-shaming in Lena Dunham’s Lenny newsletter, and the world needs to read it.
Emily is so done with the world telling her to cover up, judging her every outfit choice since she was a pre-teen; “Teachers, friends, adults, boyfriends were the ones to make me feel uncomfortable or guilty about my developing sexuality”, and Emily is worried about the impact that’s having on the confidence of young women these days.
Speaking about her ‘Baby Woman’ body, Emily wrote about what it was like to be a 12-year-old child with D-cup breasts. To quote Britney, Emily was not yet a girl, not yet a woman. Ever since she hit double digits, Emily experienced school principals snapping her bra strap, family friends sobbing over her outfits and relatives telling her to “hide out” and “keep a low profile”. All because she was wearing a sleeveless top and an A-line skirt. Basically, because she had a body, Emily was told to “protect herself” from men, but we all know the blame should never be on the victim.
You’re probably wondering how Emily Ratajkowski, who rose to infamy in Robin Thicke’s controversial (read: naked) Blurred Lines video, can talk about body shaming, right? Well, you might want to read her response before you jump to any conclusions.
“I see my naked body in the mirrors of all the places I've lived, I hear the voices reminding me not to send the wrong message. And what is that message exactly? The implication is that to be sexual is to be trashy because being sexy means playing into men's desires. Why does the implication have to be that sex is a thing men get to take from women and women give up?”
Emily’s point? Female sexuality isn’t always for the benefit of someone else and we 100% agree. Speaking to InStyle for her October 2015 cover, she told us “My mum taught me to never apologise for my sexuality. My dad never made me feel embarrassed”. You can read more of Emily Ratajkowski’s interview here, where she also spoke about that video, (“It's the bane of my existence”).
To put it bluntly, Emily refuses “to live in this world of shame and silent apologies. Life cannot be dictated by the perceptions of others, and I wish the world had made it clear to me that people's reactions to my sexuality were not my problems, they were theirs”.